CBT can help you to make sense of overwhelming problems by breaking them down into smaller parts. This makes it easier to see how they are connected and how they affect you. These parts are:
From this can follow:
Each of these areas can affect the others. How you think about a problem can affect how you feel physically and emotionally. It can also alter what you do about it. There are helpful and unhelpful ways of reacting to most situations, depending on how you think about them.
Here is an example of how an everyday situation can lead to unhelpful thinking:
Situation: | You've had a bad day, feel fed up, so go out shopping. As you walk down the road, someone you know walks by and, apparently, ignores you. | |
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Unhelpful | Helpful | |
Thoughts: | He/she ignored me - they don't like me | He/she looks a bit wrapped up in themselves - I wonder if there's something wrong? |
Emotional: Feelings | Low, sad and rejected | Concerned for the other person |
Physical: | Stomach cramps, low energy, feel sick | None - feel comfortable |
Action: | Go home and avoid them | Get in touch to make sure they're OK |
The same situation has led to two very different results, depending on how you thought about the situation. How you thought affected how you felt and what you did. In the example in the left hand column, you've jumped to a conclusion without very much evidence for it - and this matters, because it's led to:
If you go home feeling depressed, you'll probably brood on what has happened and feel worse. If you get in touch with the other person, there's a good chance you'll feel better about yourself. If you don't, you won't have the chance to correct any misunderstandings about what they think of you - and you will probably feel worse.
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michaela@cbtwarwickshire.com
I am a BACP counsellor. This means I have undergone extensive training and have substantial experience in counselling and therapy, and that I work in accordance with BACP guidelines.
I specialize in Obsessive Compulsive Disorder with depression and anxiety due to personal experience of caring for my daughter who has OCD.